Yesterday I had a Skype call with a friend who spoke about working really hard to get rid of all her baggage so that she would be ready for the partnership of her dreams. A participant at a book talk last month said the same thing, almost verbatim.
This is inner work run amok. It’s ass backwards.
When you focus on clearing away “all the baggage”, you end up having more baggage to clear — endless amounts. Kinda like the “War on Poverty/Crime/Terrorists”. We get more of what we focus on….
The only baggage you need to clear is what comes up on your way as you move forward.
Here’s a simple visual, thanks to some training I had in Psychosynthesis. (I don’t know how to get my computer to include the images directly in the blog….)
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As we move toward our potential, the two triangles start to overlap, and we are called to deal with issues — starting with just the tip of the lower triangle.
The more we achieve our potential, the more we must deal with issues. But we don’t have to deal with everything. There are big parts of the lower triangle that don’t need to be cleared for us to embody our potential.
Both our potential, and our baggage are infinite. Optimum health is represented by a six pointed star that gets bigger and bigger. Our humanity means we all, always, have baggage.
I’m appreciating the reminder myself: Only clear what comes up on your way to what you want.
Boy, can I relate! I recently went to a counsellor just to get reassurance from her that I had done all the work needed to deal with childhood abuse issues. I’m a functional, mostly happy adult, and have spent years packing, unpacking, sorting, colour coding my baggage. But I still had the nagging notion that I needed to uncover every subconcious thought, dissect every quirk or even mood change before I could be a worthy partner to Mr. Right who will present himself (ala Law of Attraction) when I finally ascend to the highest rung of Maslows hierarchy of Needs!
Two words I needed to hear. “You’re fine!” She told me. “I’m here if you need me, but you’re doing just fine.”
BIG EXHALE.
I promptly threw that baggage out. Without the question of the baggage, I was able to tackle some issues I had around money and career, with surprising ease. And now I’m open to a man who will appreciate the person I am..a pretty decent catch if I do say so.
The suffering and adnauseum resuffering model really had a way of taking the shine out of life. Thanks for reminding me to focus on what envigorates and sustains me.
Glad I found your website!
All the best,
Tanya
Rather than focusing on baggage, I think it’s especially powerful to focus on who I need to be, to be with the partner of my dreams. Confident? Reliable? Honest? Patient? Immediately the “10” in myself is beckoned and recognizes exactly how and where I wish to grow.